Strong Looks Different Now: Kylie Reagan’s Mission to Help Moms Find Themselves Again

If you ask Kylie Reagan what life looks like with three kids under four, she isn't going to give you the polished answer.

"Chaos 99 percent of the time." Then she laughs.

"We're not going to pretend I have life together." Honestly, that might be one of the most relatable things about her.

Kylie is a wife, a mom of three very young children, and a personal trainer. She's currently working toward something especially close to her heart: helping women navigate fitness during pregnancy, postpartum, and motherhood.

To understand why this matters so much to her, you have to understand that Kylie's relationship with fitness hasn't always been healthy.

Growing up, Kylie struggled with her weight and never really felt like sports were her thing. In college, that struggle became more serious when she battled with disordered eating. At one point, she may have looked like the picture of fitness from the outside. Inside, it was a very different story. "I looked fit, but I was very unhealthy."

It's a simple sentence, but one that says a lot about the message Kylie hopes to share now. Looking fit and being healthy are not always the same thing.

Eventually, Kylie found group fitness, and someone saw something in her that she may not have seen in herself yet. A personal trainer encouraged her to pursue training, and she fell in love with it.

Over time, her understanding of fitness began to change. Then she became a mom. Pregnancy changed the relationship Kylie had with her body all over again.

Even with her fitness background, she remembers not knowing exactly what she should be doing. What exercises were okay? What should change? What was happening to her body? And after the baby arrived, how was she supposed to safely find her way back?

There was so much she felt she didn't know. And after giving birth, Kylie began to realize something else. Maybe the goal was never to "get her body back."

"I don't need my body to go back to the way it was before. I just want it to function."

For a woman who once struggled so deeply with how her body looked, that realization meant something.

Motherhood had changed her body, but it was also changing the way she thought about it. Instead of asking how to make it smaller or how to get back to who she had been before, the questions became different.

How can I make my body strong? How can I take care of it? How can I feel good in it? How can I make sure it can keep up with this life I'm living? And how can I help another mom do the same?

That last question has become a big part of Kylie's next chapter. She is working on prenatal and postnatal coaching designed for women who are expecting a baby, just had a baby, or have ever had a baby.

Kylie believes this is an area where women are still incredibly underserved. Pregnancy and postpartum can be some of the most vulnerable seasons in a woman's life. So much attention is understandably focused on the baby, while Mom can quietly find herself wondering what happened to the person she was before. She remembers wishing she had more support herself.

There are medical appointments and postpartum checkups, but she felt there was a gap when it came to understanding her changing body and figuring out how to return to movement healthily.

The more Kylie learned, the more she realized just how much a woman's body actually goes through during pregnancy and postpartum. She pursued additional education in prenatal and postnatal fitness and began learning more about the enormous physical changes happening beneath the surface.

It really made her think about the expectations placed on moms. We grow an entire human being. We give birth. Our hormones shift. Our bodies change. Our lives change.

Then somehow, there can be this pressure to walk out of the hospital and eventually look exactly like we did when we walked in. She wants women to know they don't have to.

There is no deadline for getting your old body back. In fact, maybe you don't need it back at all. Maybe you can learn to appreciate and strengthen the one that carried you here. That doesn't mean Kylie has motherhood figured out herself. Far from it.

With three little kids at home, finding time for herself takes work. She credits a supportive husband and a lot of open communication. Sometimes taking care of herself means using the kids club at the gym for an hour. Sometimes it means meeting up with other moms who understand what this season looks like.

It means accepting that she simply cannot control everything. That part hasn't always been easy for her. When Kylie talks about one of the hardest parts of motherhood, she comes back to something a lot of moms will understand immediately.

Mom guilt.

The feeling that you should be doing more. That you should be with your kids. That taking time for yourself somehow means taking something away from them. Kylie is learning to make space for herself anyway. Not because her kids matter less, but because she matters too. And that's part of what she wants other moms to learn.

When a woman works with Kylie, she hopes she walks away with much more than physical strength. She wants her to be able to set goals for herself again. To create healthy habits. To feel confident. To understand her body instead of fighting against it.

Most importantly, she wants women to stop believing they have to become the person they were before having children. You are allowed to be someone new.

For the mom who looks in the mirror and doesn't recognize herself anymore, Kylie's message is simple: "This too shall pass." The sleepless nights. The changing body. The feeling that everyone needs something from you. The guilt. The chaos.

It is a season, and somewhere inside that season, there is still a woman with her own goals, interests and dreams. Kylie is proof of that herself.

She hopes to become a respected name in our community for prenatal and postnatal fitness. She wants to work alongside other professionals and help create a larger support system for women during pregnancy and motherhood.

She wants to help moms but she also wants to be there for her own babies while she does it. Someday, when her kids are older, Kylie hopes they remember watching their mom build something that mattered to her.

But more than that, she hopes they remember that even while she was doing it, she was there for them. That is what makes this chapter of Kylie's story so special. She isn't waiting for life to become less chaotic before pursuing something meaningful. She's doing it right in the middle of the mess.

Three little kids under the age of 4. A marriage. A career. Mom guilt. Goals of her own. A body that has carried her through an eating disorder, pregnancy, childbirth and motherhood. A body she no longer needs to look like it once did.

She just wants it to carry her forward. And now, she wants to help other moms learn to do the same.